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1, when the thought of a people, cool hand from the tip of the heart, this is why?
one, do not you let Zhesi hurt the temper friends. Second, your attitude to be adjusted.
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2, I was 25, has been single blind from the age of 23, compared with the no feeling. Earlier this year class reunion, hit my hour crush of boys (like him for 3 years, he did not know that we are rarely the kind of talk), after He joined my QQ, I was a bit agitated, and offered to his phone, he never spoke to me on QQ, and he wanted to declare (for so many years still have feelings). and my friend said, he asked me not to nerve, and now I'm cool with a lot, I think I actually do not know that he, and he estimated that his girlfriend, and, if he knew someone like him for so many years, he must proud Debu okay, if he my classmate said, I Mo Lianxian person (like him these things, nobody knows). hey, intimate activities, and recently, I really want to find like, do not want to casually improvise.
know some people like normal people own for many years, the first feeling of surprise, the second sense of joy, feeling worried about the third, fourth fifth after the first N is possible to feel proud of, so you do not like him so wretched, and without him tell the truth, let the good feelings that point in the past deposited it in the years to come, can not have an idea will become reality. now continue to look for a man blind date, this has not got the idea for the person you hold back of the head, you will get more confident and happy.
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3, I work in the county-level city, was admitted to the civil service two years ago, 2 months ago was introduced to one person, references only to the city planning bureau said that he had to go to work, after inadvertently learned that he has only a temporary. when there is a sense of being cheated. He was graduated from college, when I wanted to test public institutions also allocate it, did not think ten days before the exam, he almost did not review. He said all day no fairness in society today, these places must be default. I hate the attitude of his that escape. I said if you pass the test, I do not want you. He hypocritical to say that you can choose others But you must decide by September. was cold in my heart bursts. After all the talk, I forgive him. He said he will work hard words, but less than two hours daily reading time, soon before exams two days even Director of the Office to travel with them to go. call the night before exams, said some apprehension, I said okay, you have a good go. He did not do everything himself said, adding that even these ten days are enough to test into a good review. Results surprisingly he did not plan.
he began his 80% of the students did not assign their officers to give him a lot of overtime or something. well, Shun sister, he almost did not ask me decent meal, each second night out, he is eaten out, and then asked, times, I complained enough to eat, he said, Who told you that you do not want to eat ah. shun sister, should I break up with him?
excuse to give up social injustice who is also not ideal too lazy to struggle, even as he, like the fair society for nothing, without him, unhealthy mentality, go where no future. He is no alternative for you stingy, a number of temporary workers to pay? As for whether or not to break up with him, do not ask me, ask your heart, if you think you can not do without him, even if he is a beggar, and you can call him into your home.
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4, her boyfriend had terminal cancer, is now only 2 good friends know. He will not let his parents know, afraid of the burden to their parents to find. both of us know a friend's blind date, contact time is not long, each is recognized each other, feeling bad, is determined to marry each other. He check 2 weeks ago out the disease, and now he has low self-esteem, just wait for death. He broke it, I do not want to delay. Now he does not pick up my phone, and he basically can not change things approved. I think as a good friend accompany the side to take care of, happy to accompany him through a. I also want to quietly told his parents, I do not know how I do it? time now hurry, afraid of delays in treatment of disease spread. He is 25 I 27.
have cancer or have to let this thing his parents know that their parents can not stand the sudden death, might as well tell the parents to let their loved ones to accept the reality a little bit. If diagnosed and really late, but his family was very general, the treatment to avoid the bar, keep alive people who were not saved drag on death, love is the real love of his family home, so I understand his approach. but he should be very low self-esteem, you should persuade him to conform to God, to relax the face, in the life Finally, a length of the journey to meet their wishes as much as possible. Do you want to accompany him to finish his last time, no problem, just let him accept your kindness, multi persuade him, even after the departure of breaking up is his thing, now Why hurry to separate it. could die, is our pursuit, try to do it.
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5, my baby is in May, and I also unemployed, looking for work have to baby to the grandmother's home field, to take care of the baby must stay at home, choose so hard ah. Shun Shun sister If you, how do you choose? Also since my body weight after production has soared by 30 pounds, what weight loss along sister What coup?
grandchildren if the grandmother is willing to accept, then send your good work, and so her children back from kindergarten point. If the grandmother is not very willing to grandchildren, you will find a reliable nanny to look after children, now, women have to go out and work will not affect the status of your family. Speaking of weight, not only 狠招 coup: try to eat less, exercise as much as possible.
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6, 2005 I had just attended her boyfriend After postgraduate examinations, when the results did not come out, we apply for the same company and became co-workers. did not work in March, he went to school, we also identified the relationship between male and female friends, but his parents do not agree with us, very firm attitude. They I think working in Beijing, his family was not good. boyfriend wanted me to meet the shortfall through increased own. In the encouragement of her boyfriend, and I took the test three times a graduate student studying so hard for three years, did not succeed. postgraduate her boyfriend after graduation, 08 years and was admitted to a national civil service, his parents do not agree that we got married, I feel the pressure of life after marriage we will have a great hope that he find a job stability, Beijing is a good account or family woman. I'm 28, and my parents for my marriage hurry. My boyfriend and I lived together, exchange the years, I have two flows. her boyfriend under the pressure of his parents, very difficult, and I had a big fight with his father. I very much like to hear from you views on this matter!
you and widening the gap between him, for I was his parents, I would not be happy your marriage. you told his father, an argument? for I am his father and mother for, this does not make you the door. his parents pamper their children and did not want his son because his wife was home and personal conditions of drag, which is the normal state of mind for parents, you and replace what he terms it, your parents would object more intense, so you do not hate his parents, but also to hate and hate only did you find a backbone of the men, and you are too stubborn, knowing that people still live or die against Bu Songshou. Now you are asked for the 2nd miscarriage, know and each other's future is uncertain, you told him to continue living together, this is not asked for what is it? now and consider the break up, no parental support and recognition of the marriage, it is difficult to continue to operate the. find a good fit with who you are each other do not mind, live, is the basis for a happy marriage.
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7, I'm 28, tall good looks. and her husband quarrel too much the last two years, said a lot of harm to each other's words. I want a divorce , but considering the reality, he is about 70 million annual income, we have the year-old children. friends advised me not to impulse, give and take, and I thought hard, and sometimes want to forgive him, and sometimes very angry. He is the kind of mouth does not speak choice of words, it hurt self-esteem, often offend others. We had no deep feelings, because he after me, then he told me well and just like him. when he was working a year tens of thousands, of people long was also very general, family members do not agree. I thought he would have been good to me, but his temper to a decent life are not confused, he repeated temper tantrums and always fierce look absolutely shattered, although not manipulated, but I also Some became hysterical, was feeling very bad. In fact, he is good to me, money is also generous to me with, but did not let me pipe, this is my heart, bought a house years after his income to keep him own account, but also lend friends.
quarreling recently divorced, and he only willing to give about one-fifth of the money. shun sister you said, I continue to be with him, with his money, my days (After the big deal less to meet their play their work,) by the point of gas; or divorced, took so little money to go, plan a happy? or can be a lawsuit, but I do not want to fight this for the money. The most important thing is children, my family no one to help me with, our only pick him to school, and children to him, I can not bear. I live to continue, or a break?
love has broken, barely scrape together and boring. but you now can give a divorce, but could not prepare his day out with people, do not force you to divorce, got hit with sooner or later, as we take the initiative to give up good. marital property is to be divided equally, he does not want to give you the number of you how much more should be on the court for the money, because you have to raise children, money can hire someone to help you kids thing.
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8, he was six years older than me (I 29), sixty-seven before the year (when I have a boyfriend), he is my husband's former colleagues, only seen a few faces (can see a good impression on me), no close friends, and then no longer have any contact. half months ago, I mentioned relatives him, I hesitated, but his parents think he in good condition in all aspects, encouraged me to meet, I agreed. afterwards he said that because I know before agreeing to see. for although he is not understood, but the impression has been good, so want to try to make good contacts, perhaps really fate. Today has been a half months along, feeling not very good. from the blind date that day until today, he did not about I've eaten a meal, each about I always had dinner sixty-seven point, for the first time with I rolled to a nearby park, then a few were sitting downstairs in my home area to chat. This is also called a date? Then he asked me, I have an excuse not to go. I think he may be not interested in me not the nerve to say. But he also said short message in a few years ago, like me, because I had a boyfriend did not tell the truth, said cherish this opportunity, and I want to make good contacts, saying that if I could marry him, and he will love I'll never, never change anything.
I get dizzy by him. relations that her mother was a young man before her and divorce and irritation, plus the time is menopause, leading to mental disorders, behavioral radical. because the love his son so that my son must go through the object communication she agreed, before a lot of contacts have been wrecked his mother, but his evaluation of the outside world good. blind date the day his mother also, and I would quite satisfied, but also, and introduced like I said, I hope our good benefits, early marriage. surface, she did not see anything unusual. sister, there is such a mother I can marry it? after the wedding will not be affected ah?
appointments must go Restaurant? I think not. However, if he deliberately points the wrong meals, rather some other time and keep them with you to eat, can only mean that you do not have confidence, do not want to spend a dime on you. The other, a man vows are just words, you can do it personally, but not take it seriously, otherwise you are stupid fork. As for his mother's problems, just see the side, as long as you do not look particularly different, the performance of special arrogance, people will say satisfied, you do not when their own better than other girls, before allowing his family to accept such a cool, his mother, and you really just kind under the introducer. If the legend of his mother with mental illness, and wrecked His love many times, but this can not be easily provoke people, for I will tremble.
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9, due to past ignorance, did a curettage, and her boyfriend are now very good, exchanges more than a month have marriage plans. I think he can accept I am not at, but surgery will not be accepted. read online that the young man has done this surgery the doctor will see that child, would shun it true? how to deal with such a thing? boyfriend how to say I do not have? I was very self-blame, and along Do not blame me too K, ah.
I'm not a gynecologist for a second house did not scratch, it is difficult to answer this problem. But like I said N times you do not remember a word, it makes me so angry mm whether curettage, is a virgin, that is your personal privacy, why should tell your boyfriend? if he found the marriage, turn, and then to break up too late, not that guy with a pretentious feudal breakup dates can not grasp you, you will sooner or later points when you was not afraid to point out.
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10, Male Dr. Reading 33 foreign countries, female 30, housewife, married for five years and a daughter 2 years old. male and female character not and, men and women harshly intolerant of disrespect, bullying, big and small have him call the shots, frequently because of small snapped the woman. When children surface is also angry with impunity and even threw things around. but no man having an affair, love child. Accompanying women quit because of domestic stability, due to professional issues in a foreign country is unlikely to find a job. is suffering women in a dilemma: it can not bear men the spirit of violence, consciously has lost direction in life and fun, leading a difficult life, and worry about the man so long, the adverse mental health of children; but if a divorce with children to return, but also worried about the growth of divorce on children adversely, and future children education, health, houses and other issues. Dear Shun Yes, women go from here?
tell you to read along with the way her mother to see their children go abroad, you first return to work, resulting in de facto separation, or make you think men have the opportunity to Next, you did this So now no mention of divorce, the divorce because you have not prepared well: at least they have to economic self-reliance, personal independence, and to leave the firm.
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11, I am 28, her boyfriend than me in January, exchanges 3 years, I gave up my love for his work to his side. His temper is not good, but also less likely to care about people, but a good heart, and other problems similar to ah, and so I do not matter home. But the three exchanges years, he also wants to marry me, I did not feel safe, because he did sell, to drink in the evening to accompany clients to accompany agents, they do not eat at home, always home late, they go places There are Miss, I am particularly sad. He always said it was his job, in fact, I know that he has been accustomed to that kind of life, and I just do not understand the evening sales have to do? While it is also really love a lot of customers play, but I think this is not necessary, but to be honest I do not have much confidence on her boyfriend because he could not restrain myself. He said that Miss KTV is a picture of the skin. I believe his heart filled with me, because at home He was sticking me, but I still can not accept his life, he did not come home, I can not sleep, do not know what he was doing, did not dare to call, after all, a man out socializing, I would always call let him lose face, bored.
every afternoon so I am very nervous at night if he was home, I will be very happy, if not at home, I was entangled. I had also checked his phone records, have my that ambiguous messages and telephone calls, but not a long period of time to contact, for some time gone. Shun Shun sister, I do not like this kind of life, but love him, and he also wants to marry me, urging me several times I now how to do it?
since his work requires frequent visits to the brothels place, you may wish to have him think of stained sludge in the Oil Stick N times as long as you love him, you forget about him love and fate, every time entertainment when he is right to support the tertiary industry, and protective measures you do, do not be transmitted to strike and less like how can he maintain chastity in sensual pleasures. You did not like him work environment, and he brings you the mind, but you like for him, since no ability reluctantly must sell yourself, then adhere to bite it. In addition, no alternative to the Who told you your guts, have to follow He?
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12, hesitated for a long time, the discovery of cheating ex-husband again, the firm divorce, under the impulse of the households selected purification. never puts down his daughter after the divorce, her ex-husband can not do with her. daughter I single-handedly brought up, always wanted to give her a warm home. remarry her ex-husband asked, and begged me to stay home temporarily, to give both sides a chance. Shun Shun sister, you said good Never look back, and both sides hope all friends and relatives to remarry (her ex-husband in the marital good to me and the children, divorce is derailed by her ex-husband) I am confused, how to take the next road?
sincerity make him point out, if you want to continue to live child care at home, then give you the fortune of his own purification from households. How can you Lingzui he derailed the?
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13, I'm 27 female, 26, and she had a relationship. We are university students, junior and began dating, and now the first five years in a row. before the 1 year we get along quite well, whether or live chat, then slowly she seemed aloof to me, she has a very strong post-graduate program to request and I broke up, I am strongly recovered. Later 2 years every time we fight, whether it is her that she was wrong, I always take the initiative to admit mistakes, I think men should let women can fight as long as I do not take the initiative to go after her , she does not find me. And every time she does not leave me back home the basic message to the phone, do not ignore me, but if we met, she and I are all very happy. Now to work, evening telephone SMS is gone, I do not know is broken up with her or what? Shun sister of how she helped me look at our feelings?
this girl now and you two do? If so, you basically had no future. If you city, she also never take the initiative to contact you, or even lose a separate message, it means she has someone else. In short, she is not very optimistic about you, she is currently not a break with you completely, because half past one would Shuaibu Diao you and the man she did not want to give her Zhunxin.
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14, an unmarried female colleagues, non-married male looking for friends, a married man's wife notified his family, is invalid. This woman said: is to it! times create conflicts, so that the couple angry. Look here not leave, unmarried women also looking for other men making fake chat, framing his wife married men. After watching her husband, actually believe it. Faced with this rush do not run , tyranny does not matter what the third, how do?
the existence of such a brutal three, but it is still the attitude of men, a man from now on if you no longer pay any attention to her, call screening, net chat stop do not talk to each other to meet, in any case ignored her, how can she toss? problem is that men like you and her brother, sister, ambiguous, and you would not wipe the following sub-men to offend her and she was willing to hurt your feelings So, you want to hate a man to blame is you and blame you hate a man my son. is inseparable from them, then separate it to you and your man, someone very cumbersome management, control their own much easier, and you try your This can take the initiative to put down the dirty men and women do, if, you did not upset the.
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15, I ran three more than three years of marriage. LG a nice guy, and I love him, he did not understand the romantic , living dull day, go home from work, really boring. now appears in the work of one man, forty years, funny cute. I did not love his sense of his ambiguous nor too seriously, but liked and his chat. very confused, I do not know whether to keep him at distance. prevailing fear of sinking in the hope of coaching me along to look at.
ambiguous and do not want to find colleagues ah, you'd better consider the following consequences: once to the other colleagues know you a little whatever, who will see you high? not Xialiao, the men and women is a talk on the fiery, to avoid really derailed, or exterminate first ambiguous heart is better.
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16, female 26, Teachers College as a teacher in the secondary cities. a small language, bachelor's degree. The school requires further study, individuals feel that China's ability to enhance the graduate education of little help, no need to read. not to mention teaching the two In addition, individuals can do that for. In this small town, the age for a major, surrounded by married people, and I became heterogeneous. can not be reconciled, that capacity should not be in a small place by fooling around. Now that the working life is a mess. each school day speaking the same content, it is boring, wages are low. dear old problem, do not see eye. Zengyin pressure and try to have a relationship with a male and feel more pain, and finally let go. summarized reasons, the town considered a good income, and then look up, it is difficult, therefore more to leave. This idea has been many people opposed on the grounds that university teachers of the girls is the most suitable job, working hard to find outside, not be able to break out get out; older, married to the most pressing tasks. personal character undecided, so it flies quite painful.
battles if you want to go out, it should further studies Well, with a postgraduate degree, after you have quit benefits. And who is more experienced, the greater the capital when it is more likely to screw up, their battles away from home. graduate school does not delay seeking a partner for marriage run into, do not touch the first one was on Anyway, since the schools require you to studies, you should take the opportunity to fullness under myself.
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17, I am 32 years old, nothing, done a few years after graduating from foreign trade, not a success, hard work alone outside It is not for me to return home a small town in Jiangxi mm I've tried various jobs, from small hardware store clerk to clerk typist to the factory, I even did the garment workers, but do not long for each work. I thought the problem was not my own, but really can not change themselves, my parents divorced early, stay in the shadow of my heart, and now his mother retired, she has been blaming me for nothing, I have no power to change this She questioned my age in his hometown of the NPC have been married, and now if I find the object in the home, only to find conditions much lower than I am, I really do not know how to do.
your question adhere to finish off is never one thing, no longer of a good report card is very difficult, after all, not everyone is lucky to be able to stand a short time, can also be pie in the sky fall Zazhuo. Now problem solving marital problems did not work, you must first attach importance to matters, work must concentrate on, and must adhere to do one thing well, you just may develop, and development of the direct benefit is that you do not have a good marriage can survive . As for looking for a man, as long as the hit themselves tempted to do stressed conditions, and if the conditions for your own good, you will not be until now Well, not only so, may wish to study only one aspect of a man is not what you need , so much like to marry.
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18, My boyfriend and I just love when he say what words are, like in the future want to marry me, love my life like that. with time, we has been almost a year. Now his work, and I mention those words, he contradicts me. always said previously before this is now. quarreled several times to break up when he said, adding that his focus is now the cause of , in love or not does not matter. afterwards gave me that in a fit of anger about what he can say. Every time I talk about and fight is, no matter who is right. listen to Shun Shun, I did not tell him ML. peacetime He is also very good with me, but how is not a separate. said in the total count will be forgotten. Please Shun Shun taught me how to do to make me re-gain the upper hand in this love, then?
You basically can not possibly gain the upper hand again, because you took him as your whole world, he only take you when he was a small part of, as long as you do not have the courage you have him reduced to a small part of you always no chance to prevail, and let him chase you stick to you. Remember, a man chasing a woman, said that the words are nonsense, a gust of wind came on the wind in, and can not imagine a fart is always shrouded in around you. like love my life, , college graduates have been in the hospital for three years. love for two years, different city, a place in the male female intern. have met with parents, but both parents have not seen. in the male counterparts in the small town can not find the medical work, women home work before graduation, the clinic workers in January. women back, the male parent to incite men, say a place, how to be afraid of the future. women here have been told. women felt they were long hours with not a thing, resign to run It came to the men, said to be diverted, no matter what as long as the two together, you can adhere to the anti-stress. Women have no confidence in the future of marriage, fear of long points, and male and his parents do not mention marriage. F has for the first time to the male, was worried. would like to insist on his way to the marriage. Men think that women have just recently graduated, do not be diverted, or a good doctor, physician license exam next year, consider getting married. women fear this is an excuse for his , nay. Female teachers in here looking for a job, also signed the contract, that the men would not be opposed. but the man insisted she should not stay here diverted to the Bank made her home.
Female very sad, that men in the drive her away. men that just work for her consideration. Women now can not tell he is really good for her, or do not want to charge. women know that their work should be home doing a good job, that is my heart not understand what her boyfriend is not doing everything possible to be together? who first separated it. women are running, and also so cruel to her back. Women think he is selfish and arbitrary. men think women do not understand his ideas, as long as the love that can not be Do not bread, and said all this for you. Soon, you talk sense to me, afraid of such a return, and after his unlikely marriage, and do not want to marry with other people ah.
work is their own , the future is your own, you have to throw your own, partial to him to give you your future, but he promised not afford, but also can not bear, so he had to rush you home. you, the Shade SOUL.
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20, I know with her boyfriend to live together in 2008, intends to obtain a permit married in 2009, but my heart is very contradictory, because in the end I'm sure he loved me. I 85 his 80's, We know through the network, from the understanding that the plain old married couple now live a day, but I would be flat, I was a heavy feeling, even if he is too proud a man not fun, as long as he loves me, I am willing followed him. just when he was with a few back with the others I found ambiguous, I forgave him because I knew that he did not really like me, has not yet found me, not to mention love, but I hold a state of mind, to do himself, he will fall in love with me. He explained that Internet addiction through the mouth, did not it personally. I believed him, but later he gradually was I found that every time I say to him communication, because I think quarrel not solve the problem, but he choose to escape, and I do not want to take to solve the problem, it is so, it passed no problem, and I, in his mind is a very good woman.
We are now feeling it considered very stable, but he really is a love affair, man, I analyze his occasional but not with others deliberately ambiguous, and he really likes the opportunity to others. In the past he has not found me, I have can understand him, to now he can make the same mistake, but he is getting better for me, I can still feel it. I am very contradictory and would like to confirm whether he really love me, fish along sister, a any way to help me ah?
he is the north, I am Cantonese, I usually wake up before going to bed would have asked him to kiss me about a few months later, he occasionally will forget, and I said, pretending to get angry He did not got the idea, but he complained that they are not popular so that parents generation did not like, do not still came up and said to him every day, is the need to remember that process takes time. I think this is an excuse, I know that he loves his first love. He told me that before he goes to work every day so his girlfriend and then Guangyi Xia, can at me, these have become troublesome.
on the recent, and I found His dialogue with a woman online, he said to the woman he loved no one except no love, he said he was hurt, has been unable to love any person, including the current me. He said in addition to talk about feelings What can be done with her, dating, sex and so on. boyfriend also said to the woman, I am a good woman, he is responsible for me, because my boyfriend work needs to go to Guangzhou for some time, he even called it Nvwang past , anyway, said a lot of hurt me, and said he once knew a woman, lonely when contact is not talking about feelings, and later married the woman no connection to it. Later I asked him how, he explained that only Nonsense, it totally did not mean, anyway, to continue to quibble just a mouth that there was no real action. and I ...
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